Marriage, Myers-Briggs & More Books!

This has been rattling around in my head for a little while.  Hopefully it makes sense!

People have always worried about my marriage.  From the outside, we raise a few red-flags.  I grew up in a household where domestic violence was commonplace, that - statistically - makes me highly at risk for repeating the cycle.  My husband has what is lovingly described as an 'abrasive' personality!  I have been asked by more than one person if 'everything is alright at home'.

To be clear - before I go on - there is, and has never been, any abuse in my 10 year marriage.

My husband took an online Myers-Briggs personality test a little while ago.  Here's a link if you're interested http://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
I had done one with my best friend a few years ago (we got exactly the same super-rare outcome!) and while I don't believe these things are gospel, it was uncannily accurate and helped me to understand some things about myself.  I'm an INFJ.
My husband came out with an INTJ - exactly as I predicted.  We read the description together.  Again, uncannily accurate.  I couldn't stop giggling and felt slightly smug that I was one person who 'got him'.  Here are some standout descriptions:
confident to the point (or at least the appearance) of arrogance
independent
polarising, you either love/respect them or don't get/are put off by them.
brutally honest and logical
sarcastic, insensitive
controlled (especially emotionally)
mysterious (that's the introversion & thinker mix)
natural leader
imaginative and creative, great problem solver.
intelligent, insightful
practical
dislikes rules and artificial limitations - especially if they're illogical
can be socially awkward - see dislike of illogical rules!

combine that with my sensitive, eager to please, passionate & emotional personality and you get an interesting dynamic.  I fell passionately head-over-heels in love, his intelligence and confidence were unlike anything I'd seen before.  He's the leader in our relationship, he just is, I've never been the leader type - even though my communication skills can help me pass as an extrovert if need be, something I'd always been confused about but reading my profile articulated.  He's also a very deep and constant thinker - so often he's already come up with a plan (and contingencies) which laid back me is (usually) happy to trust.  He's honest, some of his employers would say to a fault, which along with the confidence earns him respect amongst colleagues.  He's blunt and has no problem refusing things which are nonsense to him - this makes some relationships strained.

I love him, and I think we make a great team.  Daring, honest, creative, we spur each other on.  Together we lift each other up and bring out the best in each other.  Together, we work to do things that are real, lasting and exactly as we want - regardless of convention.





Ok, now onto books!

Just a quick update on WR & WS's reading.  WR finished The Wind in the Willows and Peter Pan.  She read The Wizard of Oz - along with listening to the audiobook, Anne Hathaway does a great version!  WS is reading well now, some of his recent reads are: The Happy Hollisters, How to eat fried worms, many in the Beast Quest series...
I recently bought a second hand copy of Rowan of Rin by Emily Rodda.  This was my favourite book as a child and I credit it as being the book that hooked me into being a reader.  I hope my children enjoy it!



Keep an eye out for a planning/curriculum 2014 post!